Sunday, September 19, 2010

Courtsey and Politeness a thing of the past????

Thank You! May I? Could you please?? I am a bit busy right now, shall I call you back later?? ( and actually calling back) etc etc.

All these I guess have become a thing of the past... Is it unfashionable to be polite and courteous? So many instances, I have observed people (including myself) just not bothering with the small niceties like actually calling back in case they miss some one's call, thanking somebody for the help they rendered, etc.

Another observation is the scenario when one is not in a position to help or doesn't want to help and yet do not state (let it be any reason) that fact to the person concerned... just dilly dally until the last moment and finally just avoid him/her (that's just being so insensitive and wrong!!) Thus the person who needs help is just left high and dry with no other option either
Just a simple ' Hey buddy I'm sorry don't think I can do that!' or "Sorry, I don't think I can make it today!!' would have been better!

But instead, calls are not attended to, messages not replied to... Is this what friendship all about??? Don't the basic qualities of courtesy, politeness have no value anymore?

Or is that in this fast world, we do not have time for all these 'mundane' things in life?

I wonder on.....


Ravi Kiran said...

Hi, We may have moved from VCDs to DVDs, but concept of movie watching is same. Similarly, we adopted western styles and cultures due to diversity but not for diverting from the relationship. I think its important to call-back if you miss it (at least from known numbers /send a msg). I think relationship matters. I dont say curtesy demands but curtesy gives you respect.

Ravi Kiran said...

Hi Malathy, it was fun to read. Great ideas....keep blogging. Happy Writing :)
Regards - Ravi Kiran

maals. said...

Dear Ravi sir,
Yeah true... Relationships matter.. but the value of relationships is deteriorating.. and i would not blame western culture for that because they themselves give importance to courteousness and politeness, may be the type is different.. but its more to do with personal values I believe.. Thanks for your comments which will motivate me to write more! :)

yash1229 said...

Well, in today's world, I've noticed that VERY few people have some courtesy.
Most people don't even follow the 'Ladies First' politeness. It's really sad. :(

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